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Mom and Dad divorce.
Mom is awarded custody.
And Dad is denied visitation.
Then Child Protective Services takes children away from Mom due to Mom’s alleged drug use.
Children are placed with Dad.
According to reports, no one from Child Protective Services read the divorce court case file.
Dads are not denied all visitation lightly.
It’s actually real tough to have visitation completely withheld.
It is alleged that no one from Child Protective Services did a criminal background check on Dad either.
It is also alleged that Child Protective Services never did any followup home visits.
Now one of the children is known to be dead. Her murder was brutal.
The other child’s body has not been found in months, but he is presumed dead.
Mom has sued the state and Child Protective Services for damages for their alleged negligence.
Who watches the ones entrusted with looking out for our children?
Read more in this Tucson Citizen article: Dead kids’ mom: CPS culpable.
For those with disabilities, the simplest tasks can be far too challenging.
Imagine having to deal with the legal system to get a divorce when you can’t hear … or speak.
How difficult would that be?
That was the challenge faced by a couple in China – and the presiding Court.
In our multicultural and multilingual nation, people who don’t speak English routinely testify through foreign language translators.
But what if the litigant doesn’t speak any language?
For deaf and / or mute people who know sign language, the obvious solution is an interpreter of sign language.
But not everyone is able to study or learn sign language. And, perhaps, courts may not have adequate access to interpreters on an as-needed basis.
If you think about it, modern technology actually furnishes newer alternatives to sign language that may well serve non-hearing and non-speaking people better in most of life’s daily needs.
But in the courtroom? In China?
Well, the solution that the couple in this case came up with was text messaging.
It’s almost humorous, but there is a certain elegance to the solution that allowed both spouses and the judge all to communicate with each other directly, without need of a translator or other intermediary.
That’s certainly optimal, where possible.
And it is reportedly a first for the history books.
Read more in this UK Metro article: Deaf-mute pair’s text message divorce.
Yesterday, I posted about a company offering a Divorce Party as the mechanism to achieve what might be termed closure in divorce.
Today’s post is at the opposite end of the closure spectrum.
A woman going through a divorce kept a journal of her experiences and emotions while going through her divorce, to help her get through it. (Many attorneys, like me, advise their divorce clients to keep a journal for the lawyer, to maintain a record of noteworthy events in their case anyway.)
Years later, this woman re-worked her journal into a novel about, of all things – a woman going through a divorce. The novel is intended to be a relatively accurate and unembellished depiction of the experience, in part to reassure people that others have been through exactly what they are going through … and survived it.
Perhaps because of its unusual genesis, the format of the novel is reportedly eclectic, ranging from poetry and diary excerpts to lists of things to do – and not to do.
Sounds both cathartic for the author and potentially reassuring and inspirational for readers taking their divorces hard.
Read more in this Chicago Pioneer Local article: Undoing the devastation of divorce.
A company that built its events concierge business catering to soon-to-be-marrieds by planning bachelors’ and bachelorettes’ parties has recently expanded its offerings.
They have just introduced the … “Divorce Party”. That’s right. A self-styled decadent event intended to plunge the newly divorced back into the thick of the singles social scene.
Although such an event may indeed find a market, some may feel that the company may be pushing the envelope to extend the following offer:
“Free divorce party w/ purchase of bachelor party*
“*Just like your marriage(s) this offer will not last forever, call for details.”
But perhaps it is not.
If you care to, read more in this PRLeap press release: Free Divorce Party With Purchase of Bachelor Party and on the event planner’s website.
Many custodial parents struggle to raise their children with inadequate child support, whether due to the noncustodial parent’s inability to pay, consistently, in full, or his or her unwillingness to pay, consistently, in full.
The noncustodial parent should, of course, pay in full and on time.
But deviations run across a broad spectrum, from never paying at all to being mostly compliant with legal obligations, except in times of rare hardship.
Florida has the dubious distinction of being home to a noncustodial parent allegedly at the far non-compliant end of the spectrum.
This so-called deadbeat dad reportedly owes $651,000, all in child support.
He has been held in contempt, for willful non-compliance with court orders, seven different times over the last fifteen years.
He was tossed in jail, on misdemeanor charges, for short stretches, a couple of times along the way. Each time, friends supposedly bailed him out with their own money.
The custodial parent’s civil remedies having been exhausted with no success in recovering the debt, a felony criminal prosecution is now pending. A first in this part of Florida.
Oh, the deadbeat dad is said to have turned down a generous offer to settle for $200,000.
Felony prosecution: a shot heard round the … state? Similarly struggling custodial parents around the state can only hope so.
Read more in this WFTV 9 news article: Deputies Catch Father Who Owes $651,000 In Child Support.
French mother and British father and two boys lived in England near London.
Mom and Dad divorced. Mom got custody of the eleven and twelve year old boys.
Although the boys didn’t speak any French, Mom decided to move them all to France.
Boys not happy. Boys complained to Mom.
Boys go on summer vacation to England for visitation with Dad.
Boys announce they will not return to Mom in France.
Mom brings return proceeding under the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
UK Court rules that the boys were quite firm in their strong objections to living in France, making for a “very exceptional” situation that warranted allowing them to remain in England without any ruling from a French court.
The Mother’s argument that the boys were habitually resident in France within the meaning of the Hague Convention and therefore France had jurisdiction to determine custody was all but ignored.
The British Court prohibited the Mother from appealing it’s ruling.
One reason the boys gave for wanting to remain in England was that they “would not have as much homework”.
What better basis for a child custody ruling?
Read more in this London Daily Mail article: Two boys take mother to court because they don’t want to live in France.
A therapist gives some concrete examples of parental alienation:
And the possible effects on the child:
Alienation isn’t just damaging to the child’s relationship with the other parent.
It is damaging to the child’s psyche.
Read more in this [Riverside County, CA] Press Enterprise article: Put kids first in divorce.
Father is awarded full (or sole) custody of his son.
Father converts to Judaism and puts boy on educational path to his own religious conversion.
Jewish law requires males to be circumcised. The procedure is typically undergone in infancy.
This boy was nine years old when the issue arose.
Mother opposes the procedure, citing potential health concerns and contending that it is abusive.
Each parent claims that the child, now twelve years old, agrees with him or her. But the boy has been given no direct voice in the proceedings.
The lower court ruled in favor of the Father, agreeing that the Mother is not entitled to a full evidentiary hearing on this issue for the reasons below, as argued by the Father.
The Father argued that the decision is not a proper subject for a court’s consideration because:
The Oregon Supreme Court is reportedly the highest US court to hear a circumcision case. Many anxiously await the court’s ruling.
Read more in this New York Sun article: Ore. Court Mulls Circumcision Case.
Divorces among retirement age baby boomers in Japan is growing more commonplace.
Japanese wives have apparently tired of cultural inhibitions that restrain husbands from expressing the sentiments “sorry”, “thank you” and, especially, “I love you”.
The threat of divorce has inspired a lot of nonetheless happily married Japanese men to try to overcome their inhibitions to save their marriage.
Several thousand of them have sought mutual support and encouragement on the path to self-improvement through the Chauvinistic Husbands Association.
Every member of the association has thus far been able to keep his marriage intact.
So perhaps they’ve got something there.
Now, we can only wait and see whether branches of the Chauvinistic Husbands Association will pop up elsewhere around the globe in the future.
Read more in this MSN 9 [Australia] article: Fearing divorce, Japanese men learn to say ‘I love you’.
An Australian mother consented to her two little girls, eight and nine, taking a summer vacation trip to the US with her ex-husband last June.
She has not seen them since. And has only been able to speak to them on the phone a few times in all those months.
The children’s father reportedly initially suggested that the girls’ stepfather had molested the older girl. But that allegation was withdrawn.
Only the children still are not home with their mother.
But, thanks to the internet, the mother has finally tracked the girls and their father down. Now she will at least be able to press an application for return of the girls under the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
The mother has learned that getting children returned under the Hague Convention, even if ultimately successful, is a frustratingly slow and expensive process – particularly if you don’t yet know where your children are.
This mother hopes to warn other mothers not to consent to overseas travel by their children with the other parent.
Of course, that strategy won’t protect a parent if the Court will or has already granted permission for the overseas travel – as is fairly common today …
Read more in this Mackay [Australia] Daily Mercury article: Mother fights to get her daughters back.
Camp used to be a place for kids to have fun.
Then it became a place for kids to acquire new skills.
Then it became a place for adults to have fun.
Then it became a place for adults to acquire new skills.
Now it’s a place to help dads / husbands (and soon, it is promised, moms / wives) work through divorce issues – and have some fun – in a weekend retreat setting.
The retreat will focus on financial issues, legal issues and parenting and relationship issues.
The company behind this concept is based here in Southeast Florida, and its very first retreat will be held in more or less central Florida next month.
Maybe Kids Divorce Camp will follow next …
Read more in this eMediaWire press release: Daddy Divorce Camp Offers a Weekend Retreat in Central Florida for Men Who are Divorced or Going Through a Divorce and the Daddy Divorce Camp website.
Judge orders Nevada millionaire Husband to pay $10,000 per month in alimony.
Husband not happy.
So Husband stabs Wife to death.
Not satisfied, Husband shoots family court judge.
Judge survives.
Husband charged with murder and attempted murder.
Husband pleads guilty.
Husband sentenced to life in prison.
Under the plea agreement, Husband may become eligible for parole after twenty years.
That millionaire showed everyone. He avoided that alimony obligation.
Wonder what he’ll spend his savings on in prison?
Read more in this London Daily Mirror article: Man killed wife – then shot divorce judge.
Mom and Dad in child custody battle.
Mom’s sisters get access to a senator at a political fundraiser and question her about Mom’s options.
“Who would get custody if something were to happen to Dad and he couldn’t care for the little girl?
“What would happen if Mom were to ‘disappear’ with the child?”
A few days later, Dad is awarded full custody of the little girl.
A week later, Dad is shot and killed in front of the little girl, at a playground before a scheduled exchange of the child.
Senator comes forward and tells what she knows to authorities.
All eyes are on Mom, although she has not officially been named as a suspect.
Mom volunteers that Dad had physically abused her.
Oh, the child?
She was placed with her father’s parents.
Then Mom alleged that they were sexually abusing her.
So now the little girl is in foster care.
Mom is allowed supervised visitation with her twice a week.
The child also meets with a counselor once a week.
Because Mom and Dad each loved her so much and each wanted custody of her …
Read more in this New York Post article: DENTIST IN-LAW PUZZLE SUSPICIOUS QUERIES and this Newsday article: Judge decides girl will remain in foster care.
Like police officers and firefighters, child support workers are selflessly dedicated to helping others, in this case, children.
In Savannah, among other places, noncustodial parents sometimes get hot under the collar when child support enforcement personnel attempt to collect overdue child support.
Sometimes these parents even get violent.
Which, sadly, makes child support enforcement a hazardous career, just like law enforcement and first response.
Savannah is addressing the dangers of the job proactively, training staffers in self defense.
Read more in this Savannah [GA] WSAV 3 TV article: Child Support Workers Learn to Deal with Danger.
A mother and grandmother allegedly abducted two little girls from Texas to Ireland in violation of the final judgment of divorce of the mother from the father.
The father had to hire a private investigator who, after several months, tracked them down. To secure return of the girls, the father commenced a return proceeding under the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
For purposes of the proceeding, the little girls, who had not seen their father in over a year, were briefly interviewed together by a psychologist. The psychologist opined that the children disliked everything about living in the United States.
Their father finally had a short visit with the girls during the proceedings in Ireland, during which he alleged that they were extremely hostile toward him.
Under the Hague Convention, children are normally ordered to be returned to their place of habitual residence. But, as with any rule, there are exceptions.
When more than a year has elapsed, the Court may decline to order the return of children if it finds that the children are “well settled” in their new location.
And that is precisely what the Court did in this case.
The father contends that the mother alienated the children from him, that is, willfully and methodically campaigned to turn his children against him. But, he insists, the Irish courts don’t “believe” in parental alienation. And, hence, the outcome in Ireland.
The article has an interesting discussion about parental alienation, aptly characterizing it as a form of child abuse, and suggesting that children are extremely and quickly susceptible to it.
The article is one-sided, written from the standpoint that this was a particularly severe case of alienation by the mother. And much of what is reported in the article appears to support that conclusion.
It really should be noted, however, that early in the article it is glossed over that the Court ordered that exchanges of the children for purposes of visitation were supposed to take place at a police station.
That is not where exchanges take place in the typical divorce / separation. Normally, police station exchanges are reserved for cases where there is a history of domestic violence.
So the case in question may not be as cut and dried as it may appear at first glance.
Either way, the father has not given up. Since the removal in this case was in violation of court order, Texas law enforcement can charge the mother, among other things, with custodial interference, a felony for which the mother may be extradited back to Texas.
Read more in this Plano Courier Star article: Kidnapped girls found but not returned home.
Regular readers of my blog are probably familiar with the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
Another Hague conference is convened to consider entering another treaty even as I post, a treaty to permit child support obligations entered in one country to be enforced in other countries that are parties to the treaty. One hundred countries are in attendance.
Such a convention would close a “loophole” that some noncustodial parents are only too happy to avail themselves of – leaving the country to avoid paying support (with impunity).
Currently, enforcement of US child support obligations overseas is hit or miss, depending on the country in which enforcement is sought.
In our increasingly mobile society, The Convention on the International Recovery of Child Support and Other Forms of Family Maintenance is an idea whose time has come.
Read more in this Digital Journal article: Legal experts to finalize global child support convention.
November is National Adoption Month.
In her new book, an author reminds potential adoptive parents that many children, particularly special needs children, are waiting for them … and adoption out of the foster care system into loving homes.
She would know. She is the adoptive parent of a special needs child herself.
Learn more from this PRWeb press release: Best Selling Author Speaks Up For Special Needs Adoption and the author’s own website.
It’s a very strange case. The kind that is hard to believe had to go up to the highest court in the state of West Virginia to get straightened out … any court at all really.
It was not disputed that the mother here was fit (or at least not seriously disputed).
But two West Virginia judges actually ruled that a biological mother had to share custody with distant relatives of her child, who had acted as babysitters for the child. And an intermediate level appellate court upheld those rulings.
(In fact, at one point in the case, the sitters briefly had primary physical custody and the mother had visitation!)
The judges found the relatives to be coparents – and therefore ordered shared parenting and rotating custody (where the child “bounces” from home to home) – before the mother could relocate to another state.
On the second appeal, the Supreme Court of West Virginia reversed the courts below, ruling that the relatives had no standing to intervene in the relocation case and ordering full custody restored to the natural mother.
The high court affirmed that a natural parent has the right of custody unless that parent is unfit or willfully gave up custody.
Read more in this West Virginia Record article: Supreme Court restores full custody to mother from babysitters.
HOPE Court.
A place where Washington parents who have abandoned, abused or neglected their kids get a second chance to overcome their substance abuse, learn better parenting and coping skills, and win back custody of their kids.
The program provides a support network (judges, lawyers, social workers, substance abuse treatment providers, child protective services and other government workers) to recovering parents – and accountability.
A lot of parents don’t make it all the way through the program. But some do succeed, and their families are reunited.
Read more in this [Longview, WA] Daily News article: Reunited, drug free.
Postpartum depression has received a fair amount of attention in recent years.
Less recognized is that many new fathers also suffer from depression after the birth of their children. Called postnatal depression, it affects up to ten percent of first time dads.
An Australian researcher plans to conduct a study of this condition, which is far more likely to go undiagnosed and untreated than postpartum depression.
Read more in this Fairfax Australia’s The Age article: Paternity blues.
Many people have preconceived notions about victims of domestic violence. But they often aren’t correct.
For example, one victim of domestic violence is sharing her story. And she doesn’t fit any of the preconceptions.
She is the Dean of the University of Arkansas School of Law.
Arkansas has one of the highest rates in the US of homicides resulting from domestic violence.
The Dean is living proof that victims of domestic violence can escape, survive and flourish afterwards.
But the first step is getting out.
Read more in this Arkansas Democrat-Gazette article: U of A School of Law dean shares her domestic-abuse story.
A disturbing editorial rendering accounts of adults who were victims of parental alienation as children and the parents from whom they were alienated.
One particularly haunting account was of a young father who was being alienated from his children … and his sudden insight that what he was going through now was what happened to his own father when he was a child.
The morsel of hope to be drawn from the piece is that many children eventually come to understand as adults what went on when they were children – and re-establish bonds with the parent from whom they were alienated.
Sometimes lost in the shuffle is that the children are also victims of parental alienation – and that they are often scarred by the alienation. Even if they eventually re-attach to the alienated parent.
One of the most common questions that parents pose to family lawyers arises from threats by one parent to have the other parent arrested for kidnapping.
In the majority of cases where this threat is related to family lawyers, there is absolutely no legal basis to support an arrest.
(Of course, that does not mean that the threatening parent cannot call every law enforcement agency he or she can get to talk to him or her, and attempt to enlist the agency’s aid, witting or unwitting, in harassing the other parent.)
A Texas father was actually recently indicted for kidnapping two of his own children during the parents’ latest custody battle. (The terms of any applicable child custody orders are not known.) The charges pressed were felony charges, imposing penalties of up to ten years.
The man allegedly struck his ex-wife in the head and drove off with two of their children. The man reportedly took the children to a nearby relative’s house for the night – with the intention of returning them to school / daycare the following day.
The man was acquitted.
Part of his defense was that he was incorrectly charged with kidnapping his children. At worst, his attorney apparently argued, he should have been charged with interference with custody. That is a lesser charge, with a maximum penalty of two years.
And, after hearing all of the evidence and circumstances, the jury evidently agreed that the man was not guilty of kidnapping.
Read more in this Midland Reporter Telegram article: Jury clears man of kidnapping charges.
Woman meets group of friends at local Chinese restaurant.
She arranged everything by e-mail from home.
She specifically chose that desination because she knew she wouldn’t encounter her ex-husband there, because he disliked Chinese food.
The woman’s ex had a history of controlling and abusive behaviors.
When she arrived, she was shocked to see him there.
How did he know?
How do an increasing number of former, controlling and abusive intimate partners in general keep tabs on their ex’s, and continue haunting their steps and their lives?
Unfortunately, computer spyware renders one’s personal computer “an open book”. Every keystroke is visible. All stored information accessible.
It is important for victims and potential victims of stalking and cyberstalking to be aware of this.
And, for sensitive matters, to only use computers that their abuser does not have access to. And to have their home computer “cleaned” after the abuser’s access is cut off.
Cyberstalking is a crime in Florida and many other states.
Read many good prevention and protection tips in this Emerald Coast article: Cyberstalking; it’s frightening, it’s intrusive, and it’s against the law.
Michigan couple divorces.
Mother’s parents maintain relationship with grandchildren for several years.
Mother relationship with her parents breaks down.
Mother denies grandparents access to grandchildren.
Children’s father apparently concurs with their mother.
The grandparents sued, arguing that placing the parents’ wishes above the grandparents violates the grandparents’ due process and equal protections rights under the constitution.
The Michigan appellate court denied the grandparents’ claims and upheld fit parents’ right to raise their children as they see fit, even if they agree to bar contact with grandparents.
Read more in this Detroit Free Press article: Both divorced parents must agree to grandparent visits, court rules.relationship breaks down.
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