Psychologist: Ritual Mourning at End of Divorce Aids Healing

A divorced psychologist determined that something important was missing from her legal divorce, making it feel incomplete and unfinished in her mind.

Yearning for something more to help her achieve closure and move on, she researched an ancient divorce ritual in her religion.

The formal, funeral-like ceremony she participated in was both life-altering and empowering for the psychologist. It transformed her and her perception of her former husband, and revealed to her his new role in her life.

Drawing upon her own roots and experience, the psychologist has generalized and expanded the concept of the divorce ritual and now adapts it to fit any couple’s religion, ethnicity and personal experiences.

Friends, relatives and spiritual advisors may witness or even participate in the ceremony.

The psychologist feels it is a critical step to divorced people finding peace and moving on with their own lives without animosity toward their former spouse.

The psychologist is now on a kind of mission to bring the divorce ritual to those who can benefit from it.

She will even be teaching her concepts at Harvard Law School next summer.

For those who may be struggling in their efforts to start over after divorce, it may be another option for them to consider.

Read more in this CanWest News Service article from A divorcée’s rite of passage – Psychologist Marilyn Beloff uses a divorce ritual to help people get over the breakup of marriage.