Will This Be The Year You Finally Get That Divorce You’ve Been Wanting … Forever? Part Two


Yes, it really is that simple, as in straightforward. This really is not oversimplification or insensitive trivialization of the challenge.

Nor merely paying lip service to this simple (but not easy) strategy for accomplishing a New Year’s – or anytime – resolution.

I have seen clients in dire circumstances successfully implement this strategy to finally get their divorces.

They were terrified. Couldn’t imagine being single and free again.

On their own. Maybe for the first time in their lives

Often they had no idea how or even whether they would manage to support themselves. Or whether they could ever find a new love.

But they went after their goal anyway. For them it was finally getting their divorce, formally extricating themselves from a relationship that really still existed only on paper.

And I myself have successfully implemented this very same strategy to achieve a resolution of my own. Weight loss.

We all know people who go on and on and on about needing to lose that so-called stubborn five or ten pounds they put on during the holidays / since they had their baby / since they got married / since college, etc.

Year after year goes by, but they don’t lose that weight. In fact, most of them just keep putting on more weight each year.

That was me. But there eventually came a time when I had a rude awakening that finally persuaded me that it was time to actually lose the considerable extra weight I had been carrying around for … ever.

And I came to a decision to lose the weight. And I did.

Ninety-one pounds!

Why am I sharing this embarassing personal struggle? In the hope it can help someone else get “unstuck” from their own frustrating and unhealthy stagnant quicksand.

Believe me, if I could semi-permanently (so far) lose ninety-one pounds at my age, working long, hard hours in a busy, demanding divorce and child custody law practice, well, there’s hope that just about anyone can achieve just about any resolution they may have … even extracting themselves from a marriage that holds a death grip on them.

It’s really not all that different. At the outset, I had absolutely no idea how I would go about losing all the weight I suddenly understood I needed to lose.

But simply committing to “just doing it” – and then just losing that very first pound of excess weight – really was the key.

The next ninety pounds I slowly muddled my way through, little by little, step by step.

Pretty well, I guess. I have now maintained that weight loss for 3.5 years of improved health.

So how about you?

It’s January of 2015. The dawn of a brand new year. Filled with promise and possibility.

Or it can be just another 12 months; 52 weeks; 365 days; 8,766 hours; 525,949 minutes; or 31,536,000 seconds to tick-tock slowly by … until 2016 rolls around … and then 2017 … and on and on …

What will you decide to make of 2015 before yet another year of your life slips away?