When to Reveal Your Intention to Divorce To Third Parties … And Your Spouse

Celebrity couple files for divorce.

Then seems to reconcile.

Then spokespersons maintain the divorce is still happening.

Then they say it’s on hold.

At least one commentator fears that premature announcement damages the announcing party’s reputation and credibility.

One therapist recommends that the couple meet with a therapist at least five times before making any announcements.

Such premises may be valid from a public relations and therapeutic perspective.

From a legal and strategic perspective, however, too many people rush to come clean to the world … and their spouse … much sooner than they really should.

Divorce often requires thoughtful planning for safety and security, and careful execution of that plan, often over weeks and months.

Blurting your intention out prematurely, for whatever reason, often completely thwarts execution of that plan … if not the design of the plan.

Women in particular are prone to prematurely announcing and explaining their motivations, even at the expense of proper preparation for their divorce.

And later regret it.

Read more in this [Toronto] Globe and Mail article: Getting divorced? How to know when to tell people.

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